Are you Living to Work? – Part 11
Re-building
We all meet resistance; we all are knocked back by people or circumstances on occasions. It is the manner we deal with these issues that counts. In a job hunt there will probably be unsuccessful applications; is it personal, does it make you a failure, are you a bad person? Of course, the answer is “No” but it can feel that way. How will you react and move forward?
The Bing definitions of resilience are:
1. The capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness
2. The ability of a substance or object to spring back into shape; elasticity
When we are resilient, we are able to bounce back into our emotional balance. We deal with the vagaries of life in a mature manner, which allows us to move on to the next issues. Former footballer, manager and now pundit, Ian Dowie, called it Bouncebackability.
The word toughness might imply rigidity and that isn’t the requirement. Individuals need to be able to process information, learn from it and act. One of the major reactions to disappointment is inertia, the emotional jerk which says, well if I’m not wanted, I will just return to my darkened corner.
In the search for a new job or great opening, it is very likely that anyone will meet hurdles before they are successful.
You may be a fatalist who thinks it wouldn’t have been right for me anyway, so it’s a good job it wasn’t offered to me.
You may be a pragmatist, who searches for clues for improvement in the hunt. Was my CV properly focussed? Was my covering letter appropriate? For which questions can I better prepare my answers?
Very often the inability to gain a specific job merely relates to another candidate’s background being closer to the job profile. It isn’t about you; it is about the other person.
Resilience is the faculty which allows the person to absorb disappointment and fully function anyway.
Rob Ball
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