So people who care about you want to help, and that is great. However, the inputs you receive may be contradictory and confusing. We all have opinions, not everyone has knowledge.
Professional and, crucially, independent support, will take out the emotion and add experience to your quest for a purposeful future.
To quote Red Adair, “If you think it is expensive to hire a professional, wait until you hire an amateur”. This is your life, your future, and the future of your family which is being addressed. This is crucial, so approach it as professionally as you would a project in the workplace.